… you can’t learn to sing/play/dance/draw/write
… “people like you” don’t succeed in business
… you’re not a “creative person”
… you shouldnt be wasting your time doing x/y/z
… you’re “not that kind of person”
… it’s too risky
… that “getting fit” is beyond you
… you’re not very good at relationships
… you can’t make/break this habit
… you’re disorganised
… that success means “this” or “that” or “the other” and
… you aren’t the successful type
… you can’t change or you’re too old (or young!)
… that it’s impossible
you get my drift …
How often do you get to the end of the day and ask yourself “What have I done today?” or “What have I achieved?” I can get so busy and preoccupied with “what’s next” that I don’t even ask the question and by the time I do, I struggle to remember!
It’s worth doing though. A little bit of self-reflection can work wonders in bringing out the best in ourselves. I’m not talking here about spending long hours in deep thought or dwelling on past “ifs” and “buts”. Instead, it’s more about recognising the good things from the day and for any challenges or difficulties we encountered, how we might do things differently next time.
Of course there are lots of tried and tested ways to help with this. For example: Continue reading
One of the most common challenges my coaching clients struggle with is handling distractions. They get frustrated because succumbing to distractions stops them from doing the important things that help them move forwards towards achieving their bigger goals.
I sometimes fall foul of this too. This week, I had a couple of almost completely free days and thus more time on my hands than usual. So you’d think I got lots done? Wrong! (you knew that was coming didn’t you) For example, one morning I somehow decided that looking at Facebook page analytics was fascinating and critical(!) and also that I really should catch up on all this month’s tweets from those I follow … and all the links in the tweets ! 2 hours later, time for a sandwich and catch up on the day’s headlines on Sky news. An hour later (well you shouldn’t rush digesting lunch should you!) and that morning… and half of the day… had passed forever. Continue reading
A friend of mine shared this with me recently. It’s just three minutes long and well worth a watch/listen:
I’m not sure exactly when Alan Watts made the audio recording. It must be at least 40 years ago (he died in 1973) and yet I think it’s just as relevant today as it ever was. Perhaps it’s even more relevant with the opportunities available now for those wanting to discover and follow their passion/s rather than following “the money” or what’s “expected” of them.
Many years ago I read a popular self-help book called “What to say when you talk to yourself”. The book is all about “self talk” : how the things we tell ourselves and others make an impact, both positively and negatively, on how we live our lives. It challenges the reader to examine their own self talk and modify it. For example, I remember at the time thinking about how I normally reacted when people asked me “How are you today?” I’d usually respond with something like “Oh, not so bad” – a bit of a negative expression really. So I resolved to make a new habit (which has lasted since then) of responding with something more like “Good thanks” or “I’m OK”. This helped lift my spirits and therefore made a positive difference for me as long as I what I was saying was “true enough” and not too “overdone”. Continue reading
Here’s one way to make the most of your day:
Have a plan.
The trick here is to plan what you want from your day the night before (last thing) not at the start of the day. This is a powerful way to do it because your subconscious will get to work on what you’ve written down during the night as you sleep, so that when you wake up in the morning you’re “pre-programmed” and ready to go. Physically writing down what you intend to do is really important by the way.
So what we’re talking about here gets us into the world of “time and task management”. There’s a lot of stuff out there on all this. Some of it’s very good and some of it’s also complex!
Here’s something pretty simple which you can try right away: Continue reading
My wife had some friends around this morning. She had invited them a few weeks ago and she wasn’t sure they would turn up because of all the snow and consequent challenges with the roads we’ve been experiencing this week. Continue reading